When you think of the color blue at Christmas time, do you think of that song “I’ll have a Blue Christmas Without You”? Are you at risk for having a “blue” Christmas?

There are situations and circumstances that can make the Holiday Season be really hard and sad for lots of people. I think people hurt more during the Holidays than at any other time.

If you know of someone who is hurting during the Holidays, I want to give you a few tips on “reaching out” to them.

First of all, pray for that person or family. Ask God to show you specifically what you can do to minister to them. He will show you. God uses people to minister to each other. So be a willing and yielded vessel for Him to fill up and pour out.

Next, find out if this person/family have/has needs that need to be met. Maybe a turkey or a ham for their table. Gifts for the children? I imagine even a plate of Christmas cookies or goodies would help bring a smile to a lonely, haggard face. Just knowing someone genuinely cares about them goes a long way.


I remember the first Thanksgiving and Christmas after my mother passed away. It was a tender time and a sad time. We were hurting together as a family. Just being together somehow helped us. That Christmas, I’ll never forget.

Christmas 1996. My mom had passed away on October 21. Mother always loved Thanksgiving and Christmas. So we all knew she’d want us to celebrate the Holidays and be together. We shed tears and reminisced about Holidays past. Christmas was really incredible that year.


My dad is a minister and was pastoring at this time. I forgot to mention that my mom was an incredible artist. She could paint and draw really well. She won many ribbons and awards for her work. Some of the ladies from my dad’s church had gotten together and gone through my mom’s paintings. They found painted portraits of each one of us kids. My dad saved them and gave those to each of us for Christmas gifts that year. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house!

It was healing to receive those paintings. Such treasures too. And those ladies took time out of their schedules to help my dad get those paintings together for us. I will forevermore be grateful to them for the time they invested in our family like that.

You never know what people are going through. You never know what is causing their pain and hurt. So always be sensitive to others and to their needs. Even the grouchiest person in line at the store. They may be grouchy because their hearts are broken. Maybe they are estranged from their family. You never know the root of their grumpiness. You can be the Light of Jesus to them. You can be His hand extended reaching out to the oppressed. Especially during Christmas time.

Now, if you yourself are feeling “blue” during the Holidays, there are some things you can do. Pray. Ask God to touch you and to speak to you. He will. Worship Him and thank Him for all He’s done for you. Light a wonderful, smelling candle. Turn a light or two on in your house during the day if your house seems a little dark.


Read your Bible. Read in Luke 2 about Jesus being born. Read about how Simeon was overjoyed at getting to see Baby Jesus. You can read about a lady named Anna too.

Turn on some beautiful Christmas music. It will lift your spirits if you let it! Bake some fresh banana nut bread or chocolate chip cookies!! Chocolate ministers to me at times!!

If you have children, remember that they’re looking to you and depending on you for their Christmas time joy! Don’t disappoint your children. Mothers set the tone for the home. We don’t want everybody else to be sad and blue for Christmas.

Jesus doesn’t want you sad on His birthday! He wants you to rejoice! Go visit a friend or go visit a nursing home. Get up and get out of the house! If you can’t get out of the house, then keep it festive in your heart! Jesus will not disappoint you. You don’t have to be blue at Christmas time! I think of red as being the color of the blood Jesus shed for us. Instead of thinking about the color “blue” representing sadness – why not let “blue” represent loyalty. Jesus will ALWAYS be a true blue friend to you if you let Him be.


Draw near to Him. He will draw near to you.
Merry Christmas Ya’ll!